When a Parent is Missing: Supporting Children Through a Parent’s Addiction

When a parent struggles with addiction, children often feel like their world has been turned
upside down. They may wonder why their parent isn’t there, blame themselves for their parent’s
absence, or worry constantly about what might happen next. These feelings can be confusing and
overwhelming, and it’s important for caregivers to know how to support children during these
times.

Talking About the Hard Truth

Children deserve honesty. Avoiding conversations about a parent’s addiction can increase
confusion and leave children to fill in the blanks themselves, often in ways that cause more fear
or guilt. When talking to children, use simple, clear language they can understand.

Understanding the Emotional Complexity

Children may feel angry, sad, or guilty. They may worry about their parent’s health or safety.
They might even feel unsure whether it’s okay to share their feelings.

It’s important to let children know their emotions are normal and valid.

How Parental Addiction Affects Children

Children with a parent who struggles with addiction are at higher risk for:

• Anxiety, depression, or behavioral challenges.
• Trouble trusting adults or forming friendships.
• Struggles in school or social settings.
• Repeating patterns of addiction later in life.

What Children Need Most

Children benefit from:

• Consistent routines and structure.
• Honest, age-appropriate explanations.
• Supportive adults who listen without judgment.

How Therapy Can Help

Therapy can offer children:

• A safe space to talk about feelings they can’t share elsewhere.
• Coping strategies to manage stress or anxiety.
• Tools to build healthy self-esteem and relationships.

Tips for Caregivers

Give your child space to share without rushing to fix things. Use clear and correct language;
statements like “Your parent is sick and needs help” avoid confusion.

Keep your promises and take care of yourself. Support groups and therapy for caregivers can
make a big difference.

If your family is affected by addiction, our therapists at Sprout Center for Emotional Growth and
Development are here to help.

Diamira A. Molitierno, LSW

Helpful Resources:

Sesame Workshop: Parental Addiction

Books for Kids:

Something Happened to Our Mom
Mama’s Waves/Daddy’s Waves
My Dad Loves Me, My Dad Has a Disease
Timbi Talks about Addiction

Nar-Anon Family Support Groups